Personal Style Words:
In defining what we love, and creating a vision of personal style, vocabulary is so important.
If we can find the words to describe what it is we love,
1. we can communicate that to others, and
2. we can remind ourselves of our goals as our spaces evolve.
In my first post on this topic, I encouraged you to try to NOT use interior design words to define your style {words such as: “eclectic” or “country” or “traditional” or “minimalist” or “coastal” or “modern”}. Begin thinking outside of these boxes to find your style words.
Instead, today, I am going to encourage you to try to find your style words by using regular adjectives or descriptive words that appeal to you on these levels:
These words should describe:
- How you want your home to feel
- How you want your home to look, and
- The purpose you want your home to serve.
{Sound familiar? It is the same basic list to the one that I shared in this post on how one begins refining your personal style.}
Sooooo, Homework time!:
One.
take out your design style notebook and jot down the first words that come to mind in reference to the above list of 3 criteria.
Two.
After you have written down all of the words that you first think of, refer to the list below, and see if any of these additional words help you to refine your vision.
Three.
Final step? Think on it, and then, narrow it down to five or so words that best describe what you want from your home.
More Descriptive Style Words: {this list is certainly not exhaustive. In addition, why not take a thesaurus and try to nail down the perfect words for your own personal style?}
playful, vibrant, classic, comfortable, lush, fresh, flowing, rich, bold, energetic, peaceful, serene, elegant, simple, conservative, interesting, adventurous, unpretentious, unexpected, order, neutral, textured, showy, artsy, funky, flashy, glamourous, regal, effortless, timeworn, spacious, formal, informal, bare, unique, creative, musical, sophisticated, wild, daring, fun, artistic, hospitable, welcoming, charming, uncluttered, warm, hip, crisp, airy, breathable, bare, edgy, industrial, breathes, minimal, reserved, homey, sentimental, inviting, ordered, natural, modern, unexpected, soothing, earthy, cool, cozy, earthy, quality, sparse, storied, refined, lux, purposeful, kid-friendly, rustic, vintage, relaxing, light, firey, exciting, calm, open, colorful, free, comforting, sumptuous, light-hearted, organized, colorful, gutsy, posh, plush, proper, imperfect, beautiful, etc.
{pic. via Jones Design Company }
Here is my own personal list. I use it whenever I make a design decision for my own home. This keeps me in check for my overall vision for our home, and it is especially helpful when trying to make purchase decisions:
{darlene}’s personal style words:
*Glamour *Simplicity *Comfort Sophisticated Elegant Order BreathesThe starred choices above are the three that I have memorized, and “take with me” in my mind – especially when I am purchasing for my home. I also try to keep the whole list in mind. This way, when making decisions or purchases, I can ask myself: “Is it elegant? simple? will it add a touch of glamour or a touch of simplicity? will it help my space to breathe? will it help me unclutter?”
What is on your personal style words list??
Don’t worry if you think that your home does not currently fit into the description that these words offer. In time, as you keep these words of design reason in mind, you will slowly be able to turn your home into a place that you love, where everything serves the purpose of your home and family.
I would love to know your word list. Whenever you come up with it, come back to this post, and share it here in the comments!
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I would use many of the same words to describe how I would like for my house to feel. I would also add welcoming and comfortable.
@Red Door Home! So true. What good is a beautiful home if you have no desire to linger there, and you don't want to sit on your own furniture!
How fascinating! Thank you for sharing your wisdom! After much thought my words are: Inviting, Cozy, Orderly, Preservation, Inspiration, Creative, and Unexpected. 🙂
inviting
comfy
classic
clean
bright
Our house was built in 1916 so it’s a fine line between wanting it to be classic and toddler/dog/kitten friendly :). Your website is beautiful thanks for blogging!
Hi Darlene, I am SO glad I came upon your blog and this post! Since moving last year, I’m really trying to hone in on what my husband and I love and what our family needs from our home. After 15 years together we found our belongings were too traditional for who we are and how we live! I love this approach to figuring out how we want our home to feel, look and function as opposed to choosing a design style and sticking to it!
So far my list has: casual, comfortable, pulled together, meaningful, organized and welcoming. Can’t wait to read more here. I’ll make sure to take notes! Thanks so much for your advice!!
PS I absolutely love what you did with Edie’s house. So eclectic and beautiful!
I love this post! thanks for sending the link. Smile.
my words::
Charm
Alluring
Natural
Comfortable
A Shelter
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wow, such simple advice, yet I feel like I am so much closer to a vision! Thank you!
awesome!!! I truly hope it helps you, mindy!
Hi, Darlene. A friend of mine pinned your Overcoming Decorating Paralysis post and I love this approach to figuring out what I like. That’s my main issue…I haven’t spent enough time defining that. So, for step one, I found these words:
funky
artistic
musical
hip
pop culture
modern
unexpected
organized
colorful
creative
Basically, I think I want my house to look like a Duran Duran music video…that’s cool, right? 🙂
oh – I forgot “edgy” 😉
um, heck yes! SO cool!! Sounds like a place for fostering creativity… and lots of fun.
So excited to meet you here at Fieldstone Hill. Come back soon!
I have my list!
welcoming
warm
hospitable
informal
quality
peaceful
charming
storied
relaxing
kid-friendly
light
uncluttered
open
airy
unpretentious
natural
Is that too many words?
definitely not too many! But, I would narrow it down to 5 for when you are out shopping and need to be reminded of your overall vision for your home!
Great exercise. My list:
Light
inviting
comfortable
peaceful
order
and I have to “borrow” charming from the above post. originally beautiful came to mind but it seemed too generic. I think charming fits perfectly!
DH & I took a recent weekend trip to Columbus OH. We spent one day relaxing, another enjoying the quaint German Village and yet another window shopping at Easton Town Center. I took the opportunity to figure out what my DH was drawn to style wise. I’m naturally wordy and have yet to narrow our list down. If I had to reference influences, I’d say farmhouse, Restoration Hardware, Arhaus and touch of shabby chic.
So here’s where we’re starting:
soothing, sumptuous, neutral, imperfectly natural, classic, vintage, timeworn, handmade, refined, lux, purposeful, spacious yet sophisticated-ly cozy, industrial, interesting, effortless, ordered yet unexpected, beautiful.
Fun exercise! Here’s my list …
Light
Unique
Vintage
Cozy
Sentimental
Fabulous series! My words are:
Welcoming
uncluttered-ish
home crafted
confident
comfortable
love nest.
I just found your blog via The Nester and am eating it up. My list is:
Inviting
Informal
Graceful
Well-Crafted
All the Time in the World
Mischievous
I pin a lot of stuff that looks like a freshened up version of European country houses, but if I just said “European country house style” I would not have a clue when I was out looking for stuff. This is a great exercise. Thank you!
Hi! So happy you rote this series. I’m taking myself through it.
Today, my words are:
Simple
Comfortable,
Unexpected,
Unpretentios,
Welcoming, and one more from raeding the comments above,
Handmade.
Thanks for this. On to the next step!
Rote should be “wrote” of course, and it should be unpretentious. Gah. Typos. Hope I caught them all and didn’t make any more!
Thank you a million times over for this! I needed words to put to my style. Here is my initial list:
Cheerful
Bright
Fun
Timeless
Family
Jessica
stayathomeista.com
Never knew what my style was. Always accept things that were given to me and/or on clearence. But now that the children are gone, I would like to be a bit more “organized” in my home decor. So I’m looking forward to this exercise!
welcoming
fresh
calming
classic
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What a fun exercise. I found your blog from The Nester. I think I’ll enjoy getting to know you better!
My words:
Comfortable
Safe
Happy
Colorful
Bold
Uncluttered
Fostering Connections
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I’m sort of with Wendy…I’ve got a lot of hand-me-downs, clearance, and “oh-I-need-something-NOW” items that don’t really fit what I wish my home would be. My words are:
Purposeful
Uncluttered
Simple
Relaxing
Interesting
Comfortable/comforting
I think we take a lot of energy from our environment and right now, I live in a home that is pretty much the polar opposite of most of these words. I want to get there for my family as much as I want it for myself.
I found your site through pinterest. 🙂 thank you for sharing your talents!
I decided to do this because I am considering a move where I will have a roommate. It makes sense to me to figure out what I like so I will know what I am willing to compromise on as far as living space goes.
My wordlist:
Cheerful/bright/sunny/colorful
Comfortable/relaxed
Welcoming/inviting
Organized/clean/fresh
Handmade/recycled or upcycled
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At 48 I’m at a place in my life where my home gets to be a reflection of ME and I’m learning so much about myself. Thank you for your posts on overcoming decorating paralysis. My word list is:
homey
feminine
sentimental
fun
pastel
sunlight
Thank you, thank you! I am super inspired by this post! It has been so hard for me to pin down exactly what my personal style would be because I try to make it fit in predetermined design “boxes” like you mentioned in the post (”eclectic”, “country”, “traditional”, etc.). I can’t wait to see what lovely paths my style words take me down! 🙂
* Comfortable
* Warm
* Welcoming
* Charming
* Inspirational
* Joyful
Darlene,
Having gone from never commenting to now responding to everything on your site 🙂 …. I loved (and needed this), I can see this truly helping stop the clutter build up, and it brings intention to what is allowed into our home. My design words are,
retreat, serene, playful, natural, and open 🙂
Great idea!
I love how things feel. Furntiure that is soft and comfortable but rich looking. So how about luxurious!
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Thank you!
Grounding
Releasing
Resurrecting
This is my first time here, and I LOVE THIS SERIES!!! I feel like I get held up and bogged down by the latest trends, and other people’s styles and opinions. I hope to change that! THANK YOU!!!
My list:
confident, bright, comfy, cheerful, creative
I know it’s been posted a long time ago, but I only found it NOW (from LiveLoveDIY who posted about ViewAlongTheWay, who refers to your blog quite often).
Thank you very much for this serie of posts. I’m a new and first-time homeowner. And I’m overwhelmed about how to decorate. You offer precious guidelines that demystify Decorating.
Haven’t done my list yet. It’s kind of hard, as I love many opposite things, like wanting a home that’s both sleek and shiny and antique and worn. I have lots of work to do.
Welcoming
Distressed
Layered
Timeworn
Rustic
How I want my home to feel?
comfortable
fresh
peaceful
hospitable
restful
How I want my home to look?
elegant
effortless
uncluttered
light
welcoming
What purpose do I want my home to serve?
bring people together
build memories
give beauty
I’m looking for a word(s) (it may be Jewish in origin – I heard it on TV – Kevin McCloud of Grand Designs uttered it) that describes the unfinished industrial loft urban design look that is popular at the moment. Any ideas?
Amanda
I absolutely loved this post! here is my list:
Inspired
Cozy
Character
Historic
Serene
Polished
Classic
Airy
Sentimental
Peaceful
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