What Attitude do you have toward your home?

What attitude do you have toward your home- the real decor makeover via Fieldstone Hill Design

{this post is part of the series Overcoming Decorating Paralysis}

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If you have a home, or a roof over your head, you are blessed.

And yet……if you are human… you sometimes struggle with taking your blessings for granted!

For me, I know – with my head knowledge – what a tremendous blessing my home is. I am so fortunate to have a safe and warm place to not only raise my family, but to nurture my family. We are blessed even further to have a space to decorate and enjoy, and to have land for our boys to roam and play.

We are blessed. This I know.

But I would be lying if I told you I always lived as if I knew I were so blessed. I would be lying if I told you that I never compare. Or covet. Or dream of wanting more.

I would be lying if I told you I never wished for more funds to decorate or renovate or improve.

Here is the truth. I am fully aware of how truly blessed we are, and yet, sometimes I am dissatisfied. That tends to be a theme in human nature, no? {Did I mention that I am human?}

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Thankfully, I don’t have to give in to, or settle in to, my dissatisfactions or disappointments.

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Daily, I can decide to move on with better attitudes toward my home: {<- Tweet this}

THANKFULNESS AND PATIENCE.

Thankfulness: I remind myself of how thankful I am for what I have, which is SO much more than most.

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Patience: Because with the limited resources we all have, we also have choices that come with those resources. And right NOW, I choose to spend my resources in lots of ways. Sometimes toward my home, but most often not.

and here is, quite possibly, the most surprising cure-all attitude:

COMPARISION

We always hear: Don’t compare yourself to others! Don’t compare.

But, maybe, just maybe,

we should.

Maybe, instead of comparing ourselves to those who have more, we should compare ourselves to those who have less. And remind ourselves – REGULARLY – of what we already have, of how it is largely more than most, and of how we could easily give more away.

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I would love to hear your thoughts!

How do you struggle with your attitude toward your home?

What helps you get out of that downward spiral?

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10 Comments

mahnoor khalid

April 2, 2014 at 3:58 am

Incredible sayings! No doubt we should compare ourselves to them who have less. Having own roof on the head is really a blessing, that make you feel free for whatever you do. Owning a personal home let you make it home of your dreams by designing and decorating it beautifully. It’s all up to you that you make your home, heaven or hell.

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Angela

April 2, 2014 at 9:14 am

A good reminder – we are so very blessed!

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carol jane

April 2, 2014 at 9:14 am

I do feel truly blessed to have our 4 bedroom home, yet I really do not like our home. I dont think its the house, but what I struggle with is the fact that I cant do what I want to do in it, because of money. That always gets in the way. For me to buy a new duvet or pillow or anything is a huge deal, because i feel i want to finish a room all RIGHT NOW! I hate buying bits and pieces here and there. Feels like nothing ever is “finished”. Just is frustrating for me.

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Victoria

April 2, 2014 at 11:43 am

Constantly reminding myself of these truths and working to find the balance when my heart desires a home so different and in being grateful for what I have now. Since I was a single mother for most of my adult years and now have a wonderful godly husband who takes care of me so well, but who had his big beautiful home with the pool in a great neighborhood when he was in his first marriage, sometimes it’s difficult when I feel I get the leftovers. I have to remind myself that I have everything I need and God has been gracious to supply all that I need and many of my wants. When I read the verse about God giving us the desires of our hearts, and my heart still yearns for that house that’s in my heart, I wonder why that desire of mine has never been fulfilled. So I try to push those thoughts away and be content with what I have materially. I try to concentrate on what we do have — a strong, healthy marriage and family, with six beautiful children and eleven beautiful grandchildren. We have the knowledge that God loves us and is our source and we can be a blessing to others in their times of need.

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Hillary

April 2, 2014 at 2:44 pm

Love your site! I found it through the must follow Christian women on pinterest.
I have searched your site but I can’t find the name of the paint color on your door and shutters. That gorgeous grey green. Could you please put me out of my misery and let me know what the name is? :o)
Thank you!!

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Leslie A.

April 2, 2014 at 10:56 pm

Great post! I too am so very blessed! There are so many things I want to still do to my home. I am one who loves decorating so sometimes I struggle with the guilt that I love it so much. But I really do know how blessed I am and I thank God all the time for it. Sure it would be nice to be able to with the snap of a finger do all that is in my head but because it is something my husband and I both enjoy it is exciting when we get to tackle another renovation or do some redecorating (that’s mostly me) but he helps me with painting furniture and stuff. Of course Pinterest doesn’t make loving this any easier. So yeah that is my biggest struggle. The guilt! Knowing I’m so blessed and shouldn’t let the awe and fun consume me.

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Verónica Domurat

April 2, 2014 at 11:30 pm

I’ve learned that it’s ok to have desires but not to suffer if something can’t be done or owned. It’s hard not to wish for something but be realistic and if you can’t have it, don’t be obsess and suffer.
And I totally agree with you Darlene, we are blessed for having a roof over our heads, I grew up with my parents sometimes struggling to pay the rent and I value big deal having our own home.

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Christine

April 6, 2014 at 11:12 am

This entire topic is being discussed on a message board I’ve followed for over 10 years. Given what I’ve been reading recently, this post thrown into the mix, I’ve had occasion to think deeply about this.

I live on a construction site. Literally. Rebuilding after a fire, by myself, on a waitress/bartender/yoga teacher’s income. So, very slowly.

I am addicted to décor blogs and magazines. (Who isn’t?)
However, I can honestly say I don’t care about what other people have or don’t have. In any venue, topic, or situation.
Sure, I get ideas, of course. And I don’t feel any compunction about changing out things I’ve already built and thought finished for something I find more interesting. For example, I’m on my 3rd set of kitchen cabinets in 6 years because I’m changing my configuration.

But wishing? Coveting? Envying? Nahh. Even though I don’t have finished electricity or plumbing, drywall, trim, (no) paint, (don’t get me started on the outside!) I don’t even care! I’ve always been like this, though.

My now ex-DH (who left me in this situation) used to call me to tell me someone in Timbuktu won the lottery. He told me it made his day and always astonished him to hear my pleasure at something good happening to someone, whom we’ll never meet, somewhere in the world.

I thinking it might be in one’s nature — or not — to be jealous. Because that’s what envy and covetous feelings are! And jealousy is insecurity.

I think it’s hard for people to LEARN how not to have those emotions. But it’s not difficult to learn to recognize your own blessings, nor to appreciate someone else’s good fortune. It makes life so easy joyful!

Through interesting circumstances, and despite horrendous trauma, I am the luckiest person in the world. As you mentioned, I’m blessed to have my home in any condition!
Unlike MANY in America, God has worked it so instead of my original 3 mortgages, I have 1 and this waitress/bartender/yoga teacher has NOT lost her home. I live on 6.5 acres in the country with my cats & dogs, with a home that will be my idea of beautiful someday.

And I love what people do with theirs, but that’s there’s and this is where I live. In a happy, (now) warm home full of peace, quiet, creativity, and kitty and puppy snuggles.

Thanks for letting me think about this out loud.

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Hanna @ Soulfulceramics.com

August 20, 2014 at 10:14 pm

What attitude do you have towards your home? In Asian culture, houses (location, school district, neighborhood, price of course, new vs old, materials used etc.) are often used as an indicator of how wealthy someone is. Silently people (I will change the word people to women) compare, compare and compare.

I accidentally came across your blog while looking for top home decor bloggers who might potentially partner up with me.

Thank you. Yes, I am blessed. I am blessed to live in a beautiful city. I am blessed to start my new venture. I am blessed to have my best friend, who is my husband. I am blessed to be a child of God.

Thank you, Darlene.

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angela

May 6, 2015 at 4:42 pm

You are really on to something going here! It’s what we all should hear and get on board with! We worship the look of our homes more than being thankful our family can gather together in them!

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